What makes you feel emotionally uncomfortable? We all know the acute pain that explodes when we trip, land hard and skin up our hands and knees. Or to suffer a pounding headache or raw sore throat. Most of us at one point or several points of our lives have been out of control of our physical well-being and had a good case of the stomach flu, physical discomfort at its finest.
But what about emotional discomfort? Is it not being in control that gets under your skin? Is it the impression you think others have of you that undoes your emotional peace? Is it not being an expert at everything, making mistakes as you are learning a new profession you are tackling? Is it the serious medical condition of yourself or a loved one that makes you feel the pain of weakess, insecurity, out of control, or powerlessness?
Who we lean on and what we tell ourselves matters greatly. I am currently tackling a new profession in real estate. I am not walking away from coaching-it has my heart and I will forever coach, write and teach, God willing. But I am also taking on another profession and the learning curve is steep. I have felt very uncomfortable in the past several weeks. I have made mistakes along the way, learning several new software programs at once. I have felt a blushing embarrassment when I haven’t been the ‘expert’ when asked a question a seasoned agent would have known. I was humbled. And stressed when I concluded that I ‘wasn’t enough’ in that moment….and perhaps at a subconscious level I feared I never will be.
Far across the country I have friends who are facing a critical health situation. Each day facing an unknown outcome. The husband suffered a heart attack and stroke whose brain is being very slow in waking up and telling the rest of the vital organs to go to work. They are believers who love the Lord and this is the test of their lives. The emotional pain of your decades long, life partner and best friend critically ill must be so hard. It is a pain I haven’t come face to face with and can only imagine.
Sooner or later, we come face to face with the knowledge that we ultimately aren’t in control. Yes, we have day to day choices and decisions that have influence on and impact our lives, but on any given day, we simply don’t know what the day will bring, let alone the next day or week, month or year. We aim for things, we make decisions and work towards goals but tomorrow isn’t promised.
So…what we tell ourselves and what we think, believe and tell ourselves matters; it greatly impacts how we feel when we are ‘uncomfortable’. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13) He (Jesus) is near to the broken hearted. (Psalm 34:18) He will never leave us, nor forsake us. (Hebrews 13:5) He works all things for the good for those who are called to His purpose. (Romans 8:28) He gives strength to the powerless! Isaiah 40:28 says, “Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” All these things speak life over uncomfortable situations and bring comfort to our discomfort. We feel what we focus on. What we tell ourselves will increase our emotional pain or decrease it. Think life! Speak life!
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