It’s complicated.  It’s so natural for us to want to defend ourselves and justify our actions when in relationship and accused.  We want to focus on and bring to light all that we feel we have done right and minimize […]

What makes you feel emotionally uncomfortable?  We all know the acute pain that explodes when we trip, land hard and skin up our hands and knees.  Or to suffer a pounding headache or raw sore throat.  Most of us at […]

It’s Valentine’s week.  Retailers take advantage of the hype.  It’s a big day.  Engagements happen.  Reservations for bougie restaurants are booked out.  Florists’ hands are getting cut up, backs are aching with all the arrangements they are cranking out.  Chocolate […]

Oh the myriad ways we fail to love.  Again-sneaky.  So often, I think we think of the ‘aggressive’ personality in conflict as the ‘bad guy’ and the ‘passive’ personality as the person ‘walking with the shiny halo’ on top.  But […]

“It’s hard to treat him like a grown man when he doesn’t act like a grown man!”  The words rattled around in my head while alarm bells went off for a minute as I was listening to a client.  Being […]

Whether high functioning or dys-functioning, we all do what we do for a reason.  Sometimes multiple reasons.  And those reasons aren’t always apparent to us.  We sometimes think we know why another is doing what they are doing, but ultimately, […]

Can I just say?  Winter has officially made it to Montana with negative 30’s to negative 40’s this past week.  We are feeling frisky and frolicky with a high of 39 above zero today.  Nearly bikini weather for us extreme […]

Day 6 of 2024.  I thought I would begin a series of blog posts-peering into my new book How to Wreck Your Marriage 1o1, chapter by chapter.  Of course the principles in the book were specifically addressing how they apply […]

How is it only day 2 of the new year and I am already feeling behind the 8-ball?  It’s true that somehow time bends as you get older and somehow flies faster and faster.  My hubs and I were just […]